5 Effective Ways of Parenting in the 21st Century
Have you ever wondered why many parents go ballistic when the topic of parenting comes up? Over the last half a century, parenting in the 21st Century has dramatically changed due to new expectations and experiences. There are no schools where parents learn this skill. As a result, most parents get incredibly overwhelmed and confused when parenting. It is a journey.
Parenting is a process of nurturing children in all aspects, socially, emotionally, physically, and financially. The fact that parenting is a process, it becomes a lifetime and continuous journey. Besides, it is a unique journey to every parent but usually guided by the same principles. In this article, I highlight five practical parenting skills that every parent should adapt.
1. Role Model Parenting
Children are the best copy-cats. Yes, you heard me right! They imitate their parents better than any other person. It is, therefore, critical for parents to learn to walk the talk. Have you heard of the saying, “Children learn more from what you are than what you teach”?
Consequently, perfect parenting requires that parents live by example. If they grow in an environment where parents shout at each other, chances are, they will do the same. That is especially so because role models don’t tell; they show! As the saying goes, “Action speaks louder than words.”
2. Love Your Children and Show Them
Parents should never assume that their children know that they love them. Tell them! Show them as well! If possible, repeat it every day. No child could ever get bored with a parent who hugs and wishes good morning/night to them. These are simple gestures that every child enjoys.
Demonstrate love by getting interested in their day-to-day progress. Unlike before, parenting in the 21st Century requires active involvement in their lives in bad/good times. There are many different ways a parent can demonstrate their love to their children. Parents should adopt them as a lifestyle.
More importantly, involve them in decisions that affect them! After all, it is their lives!
3. Communication with Your Children
How often do you engage your children on a one-on-one basis? Imagine a scenario where family members are busy on the phone the whole day. Social media has become the in thing; parents and children can get lost in their worlds. Also, social media has all the entertainment and information that they need. It is, therefore, necessary for a parent to cultivate two-way communication with their children at all times.
Children won’t tell you this, but every child appreciates when parents probe, dig, and get interested in their day-to-day activities. It is a clear indication that you are concerned.
Furthermore, effective parenting requires that parents communicate with their children openly. Communication is essential to children feeling understood, appreciated and consequently boosting their self-esteem.
4. Captivate Honesty with Your Children
One of the most critical aspects of parenting is to model honesty. Children learn from listening and watching their parents deal with their bosses, friends, and siblings. Have you ever lied to your friend in front of your children?
What exactly are you teaching them? You are preaching to the children with clarity, “it is okay to lie” If parents develop a culture of honesty from the onset, chances are their children will adopt it naturally.
Never lie to your boss that you can’t go to work because you are sick while you are not. Tomorrow, you will not be able to correct/reprimand them if they lie to you.
Furthermore, it is said, “parents are the best teachers.”
5. Friendship with Your Children
Why do some children run from their sitting room when parents walk into the house? You guessed right! They are not friends!
You know of parents who will only see their children face-to-face on Sunday when driving to Church. Why? Parents are busy in the week and have no time for their children. Above all, friendship with your children yields warmth, openness, trust, mutual loyalty, and respect.
Furthermore, why should you spend hours with your buddies and you can’t give the same time to your children?
When you deliberately nature friendship with your children, they will have confidence and consequently open up to you. Parenting in the 21st Century requires parents to deliberate efforts to befriend their children from an early age. Alternatively, world and the social media will take their role. Before you know it, you will have strangers in the house!
The most fulfilling reward to any parent is to watch their children grow in stature, honor, and success. Parents can experience this joy and peace by practicing the stated virtues. Every parent wants the best for their children and wants to watch them flourish and excel in all aspects.
Always remember, there are many advisers out there. However, as a parent, do your best, have both confidence and fun.
Enjoy the journey. Your children will enjoy it as well. You won’t regret the final product.